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Risk Reduction- Recognizing warning sign of Relationship abuse

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Relationship abuse is not uncommon, and it is serious issue.  Relationship abuse is real and happens more often than you think.

Relationship abuse is not just violent acts.  Relationship abuse is manifested in physical, emotional, psychological and verbal act with the desired outcome being control over another person.  Although most commonly a crime against women, anyone can be a victim of abuse, and it can occur in both heterosexual and same sex relationships.

Relationship abuse is not a private matter.  Isolation can be one of the most powerful tools an abuser can use to control their partner.  All too often we fail to get involved because we either think their relationship is not our business, or we are afraid and don’t know who w to help.  Unfortunately, this only reinforces the abuser’s sense that he/she has the right to treat their partner that way.  Only by speaking out and recognizing abuse as an unacceptable social behavior can the cycle be broken.

(Taken from its.abuse.com)

Signs of an Abusive Relationship

There are many signs of an abusive relationship.   Here are some of them:

  • One partner criticizing,  humiliating or yelling at the other
  • One partner treats the other so badly that it is embarrassing in front of friends or family.
  • One partner has a bad and unpredictable temper.
  • One partner acts excessively jealous and possessive.
  • One partner keeps the other from seeing friends or family.
  • One partner threatens to commit suicides if the other leaves.
  • One partner forces the other to have sex.
  • One partner is constantly checking up on the other.

Healthy relationships are based on equality and respect. Partners make decision together and openly discuss issues like relationship problems and sexual choices.  They enjoy spending time together but can be happy apart.

Unhealthy relationships are based on attempts to control the other person.  One person tries to make most of the decisions.  He or shay may pressure his/her partner about sex or refuse to see how their actions can hurt.  In an unhealthy relationship, an individual may feel like she/she should only spend time with his/her partner.

Abusive relationships are based on power and control.  One person makes all of the decisions – about sexual choices, friend groups, boundaries, even what’s true and what’s not.  Partners spend all of their time together and one may feel like he/she cannot talk to others.

(Taken from loveisrespect.org)

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Scott Fitzgerald
Director of Human Resources
Title IX Coordinator
p/ 614.823.1130
e/ Sfitzgerald@otterbein.edu

Julie Saker
Associate Dean of Students
Title IX Deputy Coordinator
p/ 614.823.1554
e/ Jsaker@otterbein.edu

Colette Masterson
Director, Center for Student Involvement
Title IX Investigator
p/ 614.823.3205
e/ Cmasterson@otterbein.edu